For a lot of women, clitoral stimulation is necessary to orgasm. You can of course incorporate this during penetration, cunnilingus is still the best way to focus on your partner’s clitoris and its huge number of nerve endings. If you are the one receiving it, it’s a great way to just focus on feeling good and connect with your partner, watch him or not, participating by masturbating or handling his/her head the way you want the pressure to be applied. If you are the one giving it, here are all the tips to do it perfectly!
What are the best sex positions for oral sex?
Lay on her back. The classic
Legs around the head
From behind
Face sitting.
“Half” Reverse 69
Even if it is a weird name, it is really about a very simple position. The reverse 69 is like the regular 69 but with the man on top performing oral sex on his partner while receiving it at the same time. The “Half” here is because you do the same but you’re the only one giving pleasure to the other. You just need to be on her side instead of on top of her, with your head between her legs and that’s it. This position give you beautiful access to her vagina and anal zone, and sensation for her can be very strong with all the new possibility this position give you to lick her. It is also very easy to add your finger. You can lift her up with a pillow, which will make everything even better!
Use a pillow
Use a pillow under her to have her more accessible without hurting your neck.
Using a pillow to tilt her hips upward slightly can allow her legs to open just a bit more, and also expose more of her anus.
How to give the best cunnilingus
Set the mood, create anticipation
For many women, orgasming is physical and mental; they need to feel relaxed and in the mood to be able to really enjoy oral sex.
Explore other part first
- Stimulate her breasts and nipples, they are very sensitive, and beginning by lighting stroking, circling, or licking the nipples, or gently cupping the breasts, can really turn your partner on during foreplay.
- Focus on the inner thigh. To build anticipation and tease her.
- Use your tongue and your breath
- Keep the underwear first
Start slow
It is probably not a good idea to go straight for her vulva. Unless of course that’s something she already likes and want. The clitoris is very sensitive, so applying a ton of tongue pressure there can be too much, too soon. Instead, you should take your time to work your way down. Touch other non-genital areas first. It is important to show that you care.
You’ll feel when it’s time to start going on the clitoris because if you take your time, your partner will feel more and more exited and ready to receive full oral sex.
Slowly dance around with the tongue
It’s a good idea to go slow. To start building sensation, dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it. Try to feel what she likes most.
Increase speed and pressure
If your partner ask you to, or if you feel with her physical clues that this is time, you can slowly increase the pressure, go faster, change motion or add a finger.
From then you can try all the clitoris stimulation technique you want.
Clitoris stimulation techniques
Lick it up and down or side to side
Both feel great, try to understand what your partner enjoys most.
Move your tongue in a figure-8 motion
And explore other exotic tongue movement. You will feel how she react.
Suck it gently
You will need to discover if she likes it or not, but do it without going to rough.
Stay consistent
If you always change rytm and speed it is hard for the partner to settle in a sensation. If she is enjoying what you’re doing stay like this.
The alphabet is NOT a good idea
You have probably already heard about this old tip. Well, it’s not a good idea, don’t do that. First, it’s not that much fun for you to need to think about something non-sexual related while you perform oral sex. Second, constantly switching pattern can stop your partner to build arousal. You SHOULD of course have more than one move, but the way to switch from one to another is more natural.
Dirty talk
Make some noise to show how you’re feeling and that you like what you are doing, through moans. You can tell your partner how good she tastes and fell. If she is already feeling vulnerable receiving oral sex, then look how turned on she’ll be.
In general, expressing that you like it add a lot to the act.
But, don’t talk…
Of course, it can be very exciting to ask to check if she likes what you’re doing, but be careful not to ask to much because checking in too often can be annoying, when you ask the question, you’re actually taking them out of their head
Touch all her body
When you’re giving oral sex, you can use your hand to touch her in many ways, one of them is by “massaging” all her body from the head to the feet, focusing on parts where she feels good. It is a great sensation for both and it builds connection.
This way you will also feel all her reactions by holding her firmly on the legs or the waist.
Take your time. Save your energy
You might not be accustomed to how long it could take someone with a vulva to climax from oral sex, especially if you have a penis. You should try not to waste all your energy right away. You should focus on the pleasure you feel giving her oral sex and be patient. Try not to get frustrated if it takes her longer than expected.
Don’t get too caught up in whether or when she’ll orgasm.
It’s not fun to have any kind of sex if your partner’s just waiting for it to end, right? Cunnilingus is sex—enjoy it! If you just wait for her to have an orgasm she will notice and won’t think this is a pleasurable activity that you’re enjoying.
When giving cunnilingus, you have to understand that it is very different from this “end” happening during male orgasm. It is really something you have to build step by step, and then reach a beautiful climax, followed by a smooth decrease of her sensation. Then it can gradually fade away and be very relaxing or you can star a new chapter right away.